MY DAD
In 2006 my dad my two sisters my brother and i were all in a car accident we hit a bull around a bend at tower hill this is my story.
“Tears formed in the corner of my eyes and trickled slowly down my cheeks.”I didn’t know what had happened. We were all alone in the middle of somewhere. We thought we were in killarney? My sisters and brother had all been crying. My sister had said that we’d hit something. We all got out of the car and checked if dad was still there. He was laying back in his seat unconscious. The cog had broken so the seat had been pushed back and one of the girls had blood on their sock. A dark blue car pulled up and a lady hopped out and a man and lady got out of a red crimson Ute. My brother had gotten glass in his forehead. The lady from the ute, whose name was Carmel Madden gave my brother a tissue for his head. A middle aged man came out of nowhere as we tried to ring the ambulance and screamed “can you shut that car up!!!” The alarms were going non stop. He rang the ambulance for us. Carmel took us to the fence as we’d landed in a paddock. A young aged soon to be mum came up and asked us if we were ok. We told her we were good but dad wasn’t. She tried to take the torch off the round elderly women but she refused to give it up. Aleasia snatched it off her and went down to where dad had been laying. They removed the head gasket so the car didn’t blow up. The ambulance soon arrived and we hopped in. They saw my sisters sock. She said she wasn’t hurt. it was blood from dad’s head. They said that they had to check it anyway. They looked at everyone. They came to me and saw I was really bruised. On the way to the hospital I was speaking to my sister. She said I can’t believe I’m not dead I was right next to him. We slowly got to the hospital and they took me to have an ultra sound to see if I was bleeding internally. They put cream on me so they could see through all my guts. Luckily I wasn’t! After my ultra sound we all hopped into a hospital bed. I was next to Billie. I asked her if she thought dad had died. She said I think he’s gunna be okay. At that point I wasn’t sure that he would be right. I had a throbbing head ache and a turned gut. I said to mum can I please go and see dad? She said no they have to check him to see if he is still breathing. The lady put on 101 Dalmatians. I didn’t really want to watch it because I had a head ache and it would make it worse. I went to sleep and I had a dream. I woke up and mum came in with a worried look on her face. She asked us all to sit down and she slowly said “your father has passed away.” We all burst into tears but Jobe tried to show he was strong. Mum explained that it was okay to cry. I tried to ring my friend Georgie but got the answering machine andDanlee rang her friend Kellie and she came to the hospital and stayed with us. We all went off to bed, but I was finding it hard to sleep. I slept out near my special nurse Nicole. In the morning I got a call from my friend Georgie. I explained to her how much I was missing dad and that it was getting hard. Georgie said she was at her dad’s and she had seen it the newspaper. We went home and drove to nana Glenice’s to see the family who had came down overnight. We have been grieving since that night and always will we miss you so dad.
THIS IS MY DAD AT TOWERHILL
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brittgow Said:
on March 22, 2008 at 1:27 am
Thanks for sharing this with us Shannon - you must have loved your dad a lot. It is a very special tribute to have this on your blog.
anne mirtschin Said:
on April 23, 2008 at 4:22 pm
What an horrific experience you have had! Your Dad looks so wonderful. And I love the background of of the sea behind him. Remember all the wonderful times that you must have had with him and he will ‘never die’ for you. You are a brave, brave young girl and I admire you for pulling through as you have done.
diane Said:
on April 23, 2008 at 4:41 pm
I am so sorry for your loss.
Your Dad looks like a very nice man and I’m sure you still miss him terribly. My own Dad passed away three years ago, after living a very long life. It’s easier to remember all the good times now, but I do get sad sometimes, even as an adult with grown-up children of my own.
Think about your father, write about him when you can. He lives on in you and your sisters and brother. I’m sure you’re all a comfort to your Mother.
It’s O.K. to feed lonely, even angry sometimes. But after a while, the happy memories will be the ones that you have most often.
Stay close to your family and you will help each other be strong.
Best wishes to all of you.
Colette Cassinelli Said:
on April 23, 2008 at 4:48 pm
I am so sorry about your Dad. My Mom died 19 years ago and I still miss her very much. It’s OK to be sad but I bet writing about him makes you feel better. I am glad you are OK and I bet your Dad is very proud of you. Thanks for sharing your story.
Paul Bogush Said:
on April 23, 2008 at 4:53 pm
Your Loved One lives In Your Heart
Many tender memories soften your grief,
May fond recollection bring you relief,
And may you find comfort and peace in the thought
Of the joy that knowing your loved one brought…
For time and space can never divide
Or keep your loved one from your side
When memory paints in colors true
The happy hours that belonged to you.
~ Helen Steiner Rice
I am so sorry for your loss. After a terrible loss I once had someone told me that “the memories will remain as painful as the day it happened for the rest of my life, but the distance in between the memories will grow.”
If you feel comfortable…what’s one thing I should know about your dad?
Marie Said:
on April 23, 2008 at 4:57 pm
I am so sorry, nothing will be able to replace your dad, he is and always will be very special to you. You will grow up knowing that he has given you all the love he could. You are lucky you have your mum and family. Cry as much as you need to, don’t hold back. My mum died when I was 10 and I held it all in. Let your dad be proud of you, do the things that you know would make him happy, always think of him. Time will help your pain, it will not go away, but you will be able to do things in life that you know he would like you to do. Take care sweet soul, we are all here for a purpose, not always knowing what it is, the soul is eternal, so he is eternal, his body is gone but his spirit lives on.
Marie
Amanda Said:
on April 23, 2008 at 4:58 pm
Thank you for sharing your story. You wrote this so well for such a hard thing to share, I cried when I read this post. I think you have a lot of strength and courage.
Kia Kaha (this means stay strong in Maori)
Amanda
hello3 Said:
on April 23, 2008 at 5:21 pm
I am so sorry about your dad. I hope you are ok. But it still must be hard. I don’t know what I would do if I lost my dad. Thanks for sharing your story though.
heatherb Said:
on April 23, 2008 at 5:40 pm
This is a wonderful photograph and I am so pleased that you have been able to write about the chaos and how you felt during that period. I just know how much you miss your Dad. But remember, if you listen you will hear his voice and he will keep an eye on your and look after you always.
Alison Said:
on April 23, 2008 at 5:42 pm
My heart goes out to you. I’m very sorry for your loss. I always believe a person we love never really leaves us. I think my grandfather passes by the room every time I think of him, just checking on me. I try to always remember what a kind man he was and carry that forward. Take care! A friend.
wat0012 Said:
on April 23, 2008 at 6:27 pm
hi shannon i think that what you wrote was really heart warming it made me and my dad cry.
when i was at my cousins house i showed him the blog and he started crying and walked out of the room.
i think my dad might be visiting his grave somtime but i cant be sure
lam0003 Said:
on April 23, 2008 at 6:33 pm
im sorry to hear about your dad.
bar0004 Said:
on April 23, 2008 at 6:34 pm
Hey shan
Ohh im so sorry.
I dont know what its like but it has not to be good news for you and your family we are all thinking of you
From matt
hoc0001 Said:
on April 23, 2008 at 6:36 pm
hi shannon that storie that you wrote was sooo sad
i bet your dad would be so proud about what you wrote about him
if your sad at any time at all just call my
LUV soph
ooo
lin0001 Said:
on April 23, 2008 at 6:38 pm
im sorry 2 hear bout ur dad
joh0061 Said:
on April 23, 2008 at 6:38 pm
im sorry to hear that
mun0003 Said:
on April 23, 2008 at 6:42 pm
sorry to hear about your dad
teek Said:
on April 23, 2008 at 6:47 pm
i am so sad for u that 2years have passed so fast just so you no i am hear for you i no what u are going through with put a dad so if you have enything you want to tell me gust say .
i love the story and the photo about you father
i am hear teeks
bob Said:
on April 23, 2008 at 6:47 pm
I dont think i could go what you have been through
and i bet you dad is happy that you are happy.
Roaminggnome Said:
on April 23, 2008 at 9:30 pm
Dear Honka,
I also lost my dad in 2006, He passed away from a brain tumor that he had had for nine years, I know what it feels like and the only advice I can give is to try to remember your dad as he was and remember the good times that you had with him.
Roaminggnome
Monika Said:
on April 24, 2008 at 6:55 am
Bless you for making this brave tribute to your Dad. He is a lovely man, as can be seen. Keep the memories always close to you.
Ms H Said:
on April 27, 2008 at 10:58 pm
Thank you for sharing your story about your Dad. Memories are so precious and that is such a lovely photograph that you have of your Dad here in your tribute to him.
I am sure that he is somewhere above, looking down on you, very proud of who you are and who you are growing into.
Take care and may the strength that you have shown, in writing this tribute to your dad, stay with you all of your life.
Ms H in New Zealand
Joe Said:
on April 30, 2008 at 1:23 am
Really sad. I had an older brother but he died
doogadooga ahah baboona von milky shorkengrog Said:
on April 30, 2008 at 1:25 am
I hope he’ll always be in your heart
Vonmilky Baboon Said:
on April 30, 2008 at 1:27 am
That is a very sad story. I am sorry to here about your dad. It is very sad story. But his spirit will continue to carry on in your heart.
yuval Said:
on April 30, 2008 at 1:32 am
i have been in a car crash two. it really hurt!. i learned that u loved your dad so much i cant imagine how hard it was to lose him for everyone in your family because i’m sure your family loved him too
kiniolongposirmitSIR POOPSELOT Said:
on April 30, 2008 at 1:33 am
im sorry to here about your dad. but did u guys really run into a bull. i found out that you dont always have a friend that dies it can be someone in your family.
Joe Said:
on April 30, 2008 at 1:33 am
Hi again. I feel really bad. I bet you really loved your dad.
doogadooga ahah baboona von milky shorkengrog Said:
on April 30, 2008 at 1:35 am
You can lose people quicker than you think and you need to be ready.How long did it take you to get over this?
Liam Said:
on April 30, 2008 at 1:35 am
That is a very sad story. I think you were very brave to go through that. I can not make any conections with my life. No won that i know has ever died in my life.
margm Said:
on May 17, 2008 at 2:45 am
Hi Shannon - you are a very brave young lady and I know that dad would be so proud of the lovely young teenager you have grown to be. This is a very special tribute to your dad and you are a very brave young lady, to be able to share him and your memories with us. I am very proud of you and this lovely tribute.
Miss Regan Said:
on June 5, 2008 at 10:02 pm
Shan,
I lost my dad a long time ago (19 years), and I kinda know what you may feel like. But you know, I think of my dad every single day, not a day goes by when I dont. I still miss him and sometimes I find myself actually going to tell him something! I think I have never got over dads death, I just got more used to the idea of not seeing him.
Your Dad was a lovely man, I liked him a lot when I worked with him. And the photo above put tear in my eye.
Miss R.
Mellisa Lane Said:
on June 19, 2008 at 8:22 am
Shannon,
What an incredibly brave young person you are! Thank you for sharing your experience and the beautiful photo of your dad. I know that by sharing your experience, you will touch so many people and provide hope to those that have gone through a similar situation giving them reassurance that they are not alone. I was 13 years old when I was in a car accident and lost my wonderful mum and beautiful little sister. No matter how painful it is to lose someone you love in such a horrible way, no-one or nothing can take from you, the love and memories you shared with your wonderful dad. Thank-you Shannon